Level Up Your Social Media Game: Digital Safety Tips for Youth and Young Adults with Disabilities

Social media is everywhere and isn’t going away. For people with disabilities, it opens up new ways to connect, communicate, and participate in conversations that might otherwise be difficult.  It can help you feel included and connected. It can be a powerful tool for inclusion and accessibility.

However, while social media offers many good things, it also comes with risks that everyone, especially youth and young adults, need to know about.

One of the most important ways to stay safe is by knowing who you can trust, especially when talking to people online. Not everyone you meet online is the same as the people you know in real life. A trusted adult is someone you know in real life who truly cares about your safety and wants to help you make good choices. This could be a parent, teacher, school counselor, coach, or another grown-up you feel safe talking to. They listen to you, respect your feelings, and are there to help you when something is wrong. They are someone you can count on in real life. This is very different from a social media “friend” or “follower” who might be someone you’ve never met in person. Just because someone is nice to you online doesn’t mean they are safe or honest. People online might pretend to be someone they are not, like acting like they are your age to try and gain your trust. This can be part of a trick to try and get your personal information or pictures. Remember, a trusted adult is someone you can rely on for help and safety in the real world, not just someone who sends you messages online.

Social media began as a way for people to connect, talk, and share things with each other. It can be a fun place where kids connect with friends, explore their interests, and learn new things. It can also help kids feel supported and included, especially those with disabilities.

Social media apps and websites are free to use, which makes them easy for lots of people to join. Even though you don’t pay money to use them, social media companies still make money—by showing you ads. The longer you stay on the app, the more ads you see, and that helps the company earn more. In other words, the social media companies are making money from your time and attention. That’s why it’s important to remember that you’re in control of how much time you spend online. When you use social media in a smart way, it can be fun and helpful—just make sure it’s working for you, not the other way around.

But social media isn’t always safe. Some people feel like they can say mean things online because they think no one will find out who they are. Since they can’t see your face or how you feel, they might not realize how much they’re hurting you—and that makes them less likely to stop. Also, when kids see others being mean online, they might think it’s okay to join in. And sometimes, trying to get likes, shares, or views can lead kids to post things that hurt someone else, even if they didn’t mean to. That’s why it’s important to learn about these risks and talk with friends and family about how to stay safe and kind online.

Cyberbullying is when people are mean to you online by sending hurtful messages or making unkind posts. Sharing or forwarding mean content that someone else wrote can is also a form of cyberbullying. Studies show that youth with disabilities are more likely than other kids their age to be cyberbullied.

If someone is being mean to you online, you don’t have to handle it by yourself. Talk to an adult you trust, like a parent, teacher, or school counselor. They can help you figure out what to do next. STOP.THINK.CONNECT, a website that specializes in online safety and cybersecurity awareness, says it’s usually best not to talk back to the bully. Instead, save a screenshot or copy of what they said and show it to your trusted adult. That way, they can better understand how to help you. You should also learn how to block or report the person on the app or website you’re using. Most sites have tools to help you stay safe.

Sometimes, people use social media to trick others into giving away personal information—this is called social engineering. It can happen when someone pretends to be your friend, asks you to click a link, or says something that makes you feel scared or rushed. They might try to get your passwords, address, or other private details. This can be especially confusing if you have trouble telling when someone is being dishonest. That’s why it’s important to be careful about what you share online and to talk to a trusted adult if something doesn’t feel right or makes you uncomfortable.

You have the right to say “No” if someone—even someone you know—makes you feel uncomfortable online. It’s okay to stop talking to them or to question what they’re saying. If something doesn’t feel right, trust your instincts and talk to a friend or trusted adult. Some people online may pretend to be kids or teens when they are actually adults with harmful intentions. That’s why it’s important to be careful about who you talk to and what you share in conversations. You don’t have to handle anything alone—there are people who care about you and want to help.

Anything you share online or through your phone—pictures, posts, texts, comments, everything!—can be copied and shared. Once you post or send something, it might be used in ways you didn’t expect or want. Before you share anything, ask yourself if it includes private information or something you wouldn’t want everyone to see. If someone is pressuring you to send something quickly, that’s a red flag. Take a moment to think, and don’t let anyone rush you. Talk to a trusted adult if you’re unsure. Being smart about what you post helps protect your privacy and keeps you safe.

Social media can sometimes show things that make people feel bad, unsafe, or want to do things that aren’t healthy. This is called harmful content. You might see pictures or videos that make you feel bad about your body or tell you to do unhealthy things, like not eating enough. This kind of content can hurt your self-esteem and mental health. Many of the photos and videos online are edited or only show the best parts of someone’s life, not the full picture. These unrealistic expectations can make people feel like they have to be perfect all the time, which isn’t fair or healthy. Everyone has good days and bad days, but social media often hides the hard parts.

To protect yourself, remember that it’s okay to be yourself and that nobody is perfect. Try to follow people who are honest and positive, and take breaks from social media when you need to. If something online makes you feel bad, talk to a friend or trusted adult.

When you share personal information online—like your full name, address, phone number, or passwords—it can be used in ways you don’t expect. That’s why it’s important to protect your privacy by being careful about what you share and who can see it. Some companies collect your data to show you ads or sell your information, and strangers online might try to trick you into giving away private details. To protect yourself, don’t share private details online, especially with people you don’t know.

When playing games or talking with people you don’t know online, you can use game names and avatars to protect your privacy. Often, online game websites and apps will help you to create a random name that doesn’t require any personal information.

Use strong passwords and keep them secret. You can also check your privacy settings on apps to control who sees your posts.  The National Cybersecurity Alliance (StaySafeOnline.org) provides a list of links to the official privacy settings pages for popular websites and mobile apps, including major social media sites, and a guide to creating and using strong passwords.

Not everything you see online is true. Sometimes, people post things that are made up or not based on real facts. This is called misinformation. It can spread quickly on social media because the internet often cares more about what gets attention than what is true. It’s important to check if something is true before you believe it or share it. You can do this by looking it up on trusted websites or asking an adult to help you. 

Learning how to tell the difference between real and fake information online is called digital literacy, and it helps you stay smart and safe online. A big part of being digitally literate is knowing where to find information you can trust. Websites from certain places are often trusted sources. These kinds of websites are generally considered places that share reliable facts and safety tips backed by research:

• Websites that end with .gov usually belong to the U.S. government, like places that share safety tips or resources.
• Websites ending with .ed or .edu are often connected to educational organizations or government education departments.
• Websites ending with .mil are for the U.S. military.

Looking for these endings can be a helpful way to find information you can trust. It’s a good idea to stay current and check trusted websites for the latest information.

 Scams are tricks people use to try to steal your money or personal information. Scammers might pretend to be someone you know, like a friend or family member, or even act like they’re from your bank or a company you trust. They might send you messages asking for your password, bank info, or to send them money.

If something feels weird or too good to be true, it probably is. One way to stay safe is to check with a trusted adult that you know in person—before you respond.

One way to stay safe online is by using the “Rule of 5,” which means having five trusted people you can talk to when something online feels wrong or confusing. These people could be parents, teachers, counselors, or other adults who care about you and want to help. If you get a message or see something that makes you feel uncomfortable, it’s always okay to stop and check with one of your five trusted people before you respond. Even if you feel embarrassed or worried, asking for help is the smart thing to do. Your safety matters more than keeping a secret or being afraid of losing your phone. Trusted adults are there to support you, not to get you in trouble.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself to help you identify five people you can trust:

• Who do I feel safe talking to when something is bothering me?
• Who listens to me without judging or getting angry?
• Who has helped me solve a problem before?
• Who would I go to if I saw something online that made me feel scared or confused?
• Who do I trust to keep me safe and give good advice?
• Who do I feel comfortable being honest with, even if I made a mistake?
• Who do I know that cares about me and wants the best for me?
• Who could I call or message quickly if I needed help right away?

Once you’ve identified five people, write them down or save their contact info in a safe place.

Social media is a tool, and like all tools there are right ways and wrong ways of using it. Social media should help you—not control you. When you know how to stay safe, set limits, and ask for help when something feels wrong, you can enjoy the fun parts of being online. Always try to be kind and respectful, just like you would be in person. With the right tools and support, you can find ways to make social media work for you, not the other way around.

Check out the related article, Defining your Social Media Game Plan: #Goals, for self-reflection questions to help children, youth, and young adults identify their goals for social media.