My Family’s Sensory and Adaptive Needs for the Holidays

Posted on by Nicol Walsh

The holidays are a fun and festive time that often includes lots of change in schedules, foods, bright lights, loud unexpected sounds, new people, and lots of heightened emotional situations (i.e. seeing Grandparents, presents, seeing Santa). All of this is often overwhelming and even disorienting, especially for those families or individuals who may have some challenges in navigating change or experience a disability or chronic health condition.

A Brief Overview 

  • This article shares ideas, tips, and resources around family-friendly tweaks that can be added to Holiday activities to reduce stress and overwhelm.
  • This is part of a series on the topic of creating joyful holidays for family members, which began in Sensory-Friendly Holiday Tips, and continues in Creating Comfortable Holiday Spaces and Giving the Gift of Sensory-Regulation; Supporting a Happy Holiday Season for All.
  • How to plan for both the needs of your children with unique needs and siblings to encourage shared enjoyment.
  • How to use planning, clear communication, and providing a sense of control to create an inclusive holiday season. 
  • Understanding, supporting, and celebrating the unique needs of your family bring a sense of belonging and acceptance, allowing everyone to enjoy the festive spirit. 

Holidays and Families

People often see family get-togethers, new food, music, trips to see Santa, or new social situations as the joys of holidays, but for families who have children with a disability and those family members who experience life a little differently, these experiences can often be overwhelming and/or exhausting. This doesn’t mean they dislike the event or holidays; it just requires some preparation to make the season inclusive and enjoyable. 

It’s the age-old question… How to create an enjoyable experience for your child(ren) with a disability, their sibling(s), and still not exhaust yourself. Here are some tips that many families have found helpful:

  • Plan short outings and pack snacks (long activities are often overwhelming and tiring for everyone).
  • Bring headphones, fidgets, or handheld activities for kids with sensory needs and high overwhelm (it keeps them entertained while their siblings get to enjoy the holiday fun).
  • Have a person to be able to stay and to do active things with siblings, and someone to be able to take those who need to de-stress and wind down to their own space for quiet fun.
  • What are some home holiday things that mimic large activities (one of the Nutcrackers streamed on TV with popcorn and other treats, siblings dressed up as Santa and elves for pictures, building a pillow snow fort).
  • Sending family information ahead of time on sensory triggers and needs so that they understand if you need to leave early, don’t join in an activity, or ask to join in differently.

There is so much to do and enjoy during this time but navigating it takes thinking ahead and not trying to do everything.

What did you do as a family last year? What worked? What was most enjoyable? If you have older children, talking with your family before school gets out to plan and map out some special things will help with boredom. Give jobs to make the activities successful so that everyone helps make it inclusive, have the siblings talk about what they think will help, and make things comfortable and what will help. This makes it a family holiday that is not just the parents’ responsibility. Remembering to plan parent time off during the Holidays is an important self-care tool!

Travel

If travel is part of the Holiday plans, a more robust planning process is essential. Medications and an emergency medical information sheet, if your loved one has a chronic condition, can be downloaded and added to their luggage to tuck in with the medications. The linked sheet is from the F2F website care notebook page.  Having an extra 3-day emergency medication supply, if possible, is often recommended to give breathing room while doctors are contacted if there are travel delays. To support your loved one, consider planning travel itineraries that include ample downtime, familiar items for comfort, and clear, detailed schedules to reduce anxiety. Additionally, choosing quieter travel times and less crowded destinations can help create a more manageable experience. If there are food requirements, pack food that will make it through security and purchase beverages before getting on the plane. As mentioned above, having noise-canceling headphones, weighted blankets, games, and activities can also help reduce anxiety. 

Sensory Considerations

Sensory sensitivities can be a challenge for anyone whose body or brain is trying to process not only what is going on around them but also their own body’s challenges.  Age, length of time in an activity, anxiety, excitement, and how many systems in the body are impacted, all contribute to an individual’s capacity to handle the multiple layers of sensory input that come with Holiday activities. Knowing your child’s and family’s tolerance for those “layers” and what the stopping points are is essential to creating a holiday environment that minimizes sensory overload. This can include soft lighting, reduce loud noises, and provide sensory-friendly activities.

The holidays are just like any other time of change for your loved one. Take their unique sensory needs into account and what their routines are for medication, rest, and exercise. How the holiday adaptation will fit with your family’s rhythm and how your children usually interact. Taking the time to create buffer zones, adaptive spaces, creative personal activities, with spots of celebration and joy for all your family can take what could be stressful and overwhelming to manageable and memorable. To find other information and ideas on Holiday activities and adaptations, see the additional articles on the links below.

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